The Secret? What secret? I have my *own* secret...

So Oprah's hyped up another book--The Secret.

Everyone I know is reading up on The Secret. They tell me to visualize, to think positive, to see myself losing weight. Sounds feasible enough but I know myself.

Thinking positive isn't going to be enough. I need a little bit of fear, maybe just a touch of negativity. But more than that, I need action.

Wait, that sounded bad...

What I mean is that I need to be pro-active about my weight loss. And that's why I'm loving my own secret discovery--a book by Lisa Delaney called Secrets of a Former Fat Girl

I know what you're thinking. You're not about to walk into a bookstore, pick up a book that has "Fat Girl" in the title, and pay for it. Heck, I thought the same thing. I can't buy a book about fat girls.

But let's be real.

The person behind the counter knows what I do--that I'm fat. I can wear all the makeup I want, do my hair as nicely as possible and wear the cutest clothes I can fit into. But there's no hiding the fact I'm fat. And instead of running from that word, I'm choosing to embrace it. Because I'm not going to be fat much longer.

What I've really loved about the book--and I admit, I'm not finished with it yet--is that it's very real. It's very and the author has been there. She's overcome her weight issues, lost the pounds and isn't afraid to talk about the struggle.

There's something to be said about candor like that and reading Secrets of a Former Fat Girl has taught me that losing weight is something I have to challenge myself to do. I can't think the pounds away. I can't dream them away. I have to chase them away.

The only way to do that is to suck it up and work hard--sacrifice and fight through cravings. Pass up the greasy, unhealthy food. Exercise. Realize it is within my control.

Hey...was that positive thinking? Am I visualizing myself thinner? Maybe I need to go get that other book after all...